From Daring Greatly, which I have on loan from my oldest, dearest, and wisest friend. It’s provided me much needed perspective and company this month. Some of what I highlighted:
“I believe that feedback thrives in cultures where the goal is not ‘getting comfortable with hard conversations’ but normalizing discomfort. If leaders expect real learning, critical thinking, and change, then discomfort should be normalized: ‘We believe growth and learning are uncomfortable so it’s going to happen here—you’re going to feel that way. We want you to know that it’s normal and it’s an expectation here. You’re not alone and we ask that you stay open and lean into it.” p. 198
“The research has made this clear: Vulnerability is at the heart of the feedback process. This is true whether we give, receive, or solicit feedback. And the vulnerability doesn’t go away even if we’re trained and experienced in getting feedback.” p. 201
“In my social work training, a lot of attention was paid to how we talk to people, even down to where and how we sit. For example, I would never talk to a client across a desk; I would walk around my desk and sit in a chair across from the client so there was nothing big and bulky between us.” p. 203
“Today, ‘Sitting on the same side of the table’ is my metaphor for feedback. I used it to create my Engaged Feedback Checklist.” p. 203
“How would education be different if students, teachers, and parents sat on the same side of the table?” p. 204
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